Abortions.

this is really a topic that is out of the blue. no im not getting an abortion. neither am i with a baby. the only thing i can abort right is prolly just plans kay. i don't even have a boyfriend, where to make baby la you tell me? i just thought that i might just make this a topic since i realise that i do have a strong firm stand on this issue. Which is unusual of me. i normally have a very wavered stand on alot of things, even issues regarding myself. but when jolene was talking to me about this (no, she isn't pregnant either. she merely saw it on a show and chose to talk to me out of randomness) issue about abortions.

So she was like telling me that she saw this show where in the family, the mom is pregnant and the daughter is pregnant too. and guess what, the daughter is 14 only. LIKE HELLO. YOU COME MENSES LESS THAN 2 YEARS YOU GET PREGNANT. SO EAGER TO TEST YOUR FERTILITY ABILITY IS IT. okay sorry. im a tad bit too extreme. let me show you what i think of this issue and maybe you will understand why i am so agitated over it. So anyway, back to jolene, so she told me she asked her mom (who is like my self proclaimed godmother. hahahah) what will she do if jolene is like the daughter in the show? and her mom was like

 "I will just treat it that i do not have you as a daughter"

Somehow this reply just showed me the really vast difference in perspective between people in Asian cultures and prolly more Westernized cultures? im not really sure about this and im sure there are angmohs who are like more towards the conservative side (even though it is not as per depicted on tv) but look at MTV showing "Teen Mom" and people who are willing to go on it. It almost seems as if being a teen mom is perfectly fine nowadays. Like indirectly announcing to the world that you have "intimate experiences" at such a young age and even carelessly making a baby and attempting to take care of it when you are one kid yourself is perfectly normal. And i cannot stress more that i do not have any thing against having "it" at such a young age. I mean, yes it is your choice. you can choose to value it like gold or treat it like its nothing big. That's perfectly fine because everyone thinks and are brought up with a different mindset, though i would say that i do value my body very very much. haha. Well, that issue on intimate experiences is totally not my issue today. It is abortion today. Well, back to that reaction, i find it very extreme but it is still understandable, especially when we are still in a world with conservative thinking. but of course, i don't think any parent will do this because who would want to see their flesh and blood gone right? and which is the same reason why i do not understand people who is able to undergo abortions (without valid medical reasons, that is)

Nowadays, there is a rise in teenagers engaging in intimate moments with their other half, even when they are not legally married. It doesn't seem that much of a big deal anymore that pre-marriage sex should be observed. Of course, this is different in everyone's opinions. But then when jolene asked me:

What if you are the one who is pregnant with baby at a young age? Or what if i is your daughter the one who is pregnant?

 Well, my first reaction to the question was:  

Definitely not.

Anyway, in the first place i won't have a baby at a young age. Because first, i do observe the unspoken rule of no pre-marriage sex, second i do not have a boyf and even if i do, i will not allow him to manipulate me into doing something that i perceive as wrong.  Well but the question is a hypothetical scenario, so what i would say i would do is that i would give birth to the baby and see how things on from there. Get married, get a job, take care of the baby. of course, it is easier said than done. which is prolly the reason why teenagers opt for abortions when they accidentally become pregnant. Because they know that they do not have the ability to take care of another child, because they are a child themselves. Then at the end of the day then it would just become the grandparents who is taking care of the baby isn't it? Sometimes, the parents might even be the one who will be the one that drags the daughter to abortion. Because having a baby is seriously a huge deal. Imagine how tough things will get: you can't go to school, you receive judgmental stares, you have to work, you don't have a life anymore. Basically having a baby unprepared at a age where you are supposed to be the "baby" of your household is equivalent to courting to unnecessary trouble. But then, even after these hardship, i still do not see the extreme needs of going for abortion. Unless the baby is endangering the life of the mom. then that is no choice. 

Abortion is killing a life. whatever that is inside of your womb, is a life. it is breathing, it is receiving nutrients that you take in, it is developing and growing inside of you. It does not give you the right to kill a life, especially if you were the one who created it. Why do you want to kill off something that is so innocent, a result of your foolishness or perhaps, a moment of fun, enjoyment or whatever you call it.but if it was your "mistake" (i call it mistake because it is against my rules. you can call it otherwise) that you went ahead to do something that possibly created a consequence that you actually knew you don't have the ability to bear. talk about being irresponsible.

Because of my strong view against abortions, i actually do not judge people who get married because they have a baby, even at a young age. Because i see the act of getting married is a form of being responsible to the baby as well. It did not do anything wrong to be fertilised by his sperm and her egg and swept through the fallopian tube by the ciliated walls and get implanted and grow. so why is it being punished for doing nothing at all? I do agree that the world is so judgmental on people who get pregnant before they get married. But i simply do not agree with their thinking. These two people made a choice to do something that produce a consequence of a life. They could have jolly well chose to abort the baby like anyone else did. Killing a baby that they were not attached to? easy as hell because people nowadays can hurt someone else even very close to them, without batting an eyelid. But they didn't. they chose to stand together and create a family for the baby. even if things do not work out their way, though i believe it will even tho its tough, but then they are willing to bear the consequences. It was their doings to create a life, a life that was a combination of both their genetics, then it will be their responsibility to love it, nurture it and be responsible for it. not bloody hell kill it.

i once watched a video called Silent Cry. it was a live video of abortion and you can actually see the instrument going in the womb, clenching and crushing the baby. the part that made me go against abortion so badly is the fact that, you can see the baby running away for it. like it knows its in danger but it can't. and you can see it open its mouth, like its crying. crying for help. crying for the mother to save it. isnt that the job of a mom? to protect your flesh and blood? but nope. abortion--an optional way of murdering your child. do you know how many couples out there wants to have a child but they cant? do you know how many couples out there have to do abortion to save the life of the mother even though they want the child badly? do you know how many couples out there have to do abortions because their baby were not well developed? do you know how selfish an act of abortion to halt all consequences on your act is? Abortion is not just an act, it is a result, a consequence and it will keep someone guilty forever. Because it is murder. Think before you act. Don't do things, you don't have the ability to bear the consequences. Don't murder a life just trying to save yours.